Everyone struggles at least a little bit about loving themselves. Trust me - when I started therapy, my psychologist asked me on the first day, “What are 5 good qualities about yourself?”
“Okay, let’s start with one. What’s one good quality you have?”
I had to think SO hard, and I struggled to come up with one single answer I was confident with. After minutes of searching through my brain and crossing hundreds of things off the list, I finally came up with “I’m nice to animals.” Hey, we all have to start somewhere. Saying something nice about myself felt so weird at first - like I was being vain for saying it. I had to learn how to love myself from the beginning, and it took a lot of work, like all recovery.
I have come a long way, but I have a way to go yet. Follow along.
10 Journaling Prompts for #SelfLove
1. What is something you are working on believing you deserve?
I'm working on believing I deserve to be treated fairly. It's not easy letting go of something incredibly familiar, even if it's not good for you. With all hope, this is a project of growth - not loss.
2. Name something you worry about for the future?
Definitely my health. My anxiety's favorite symptom is hypochondria. This is my gentle reminder that being worried about my health is not a necessary stress I need to bare. All I can do is eat well, drink water, and exercise regularly and see a doctor when I'm not well.
3. List one thing you’re really good at?
Problem-solving. Whether it is managing making a complicated production schedule for 7 people, or DIY that thing that costs $300 at Anthropologie, I can probably come up with a damn good solution.
4. What words do you want to live your life by?
My mom's: "Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end." These have always brought me comfort when I'm struggling.
5. What would your younger self be proud of you for today?
My younger self would be proud of me today for going outside of my comfort zone on such a regular basis. That was basically her nemesis.
6. What is one change you can make in your life for more happiness?
Letting go of things I can not change. One of the biggest things I'm currently focusing on is this. It's all well and good to make choices that bring you happiness, but choosing to be happy even when things you don't want to happen... happen, it's really difficult.
7. Name one thing you can let go of that doesn’t make you happy.
The size of my jeans. I have always had a complicated self-image and in the past couple years I've put on some 'happy weight'. Letting go of what the number is (which, we have all seen proof online that the clothing industry puts whatever number they want on them anyway) would improve my happiness.
8. Name something that makes you feel powerful.
I feel the most powerful when I'm at work and I'm given a task where my first reaction is: "What! This is literally impossible, there is no way I can make that happen!" and then I make it happen. BAM.
9. What is something you wish someone would say to you?
10. What is one thing you can do now that your future self will thank you for?
I mean, I could go eat a salad and go for a run - I don't think anyone has ever regretted that. Seriously though - I could be honest with myself with how I feel. I am missing someone right now, and instead of avoiding it or distracting myself, I will be honest - I am afraid of losing them forever.